Going Solo

As busy as I am, I often feel I don’t have enough time to spend with friends and family. And as a single girl, many events just make more sense with a date. Galas, for one. Cocktail and holiday parties. And spouse-included business functions.

Yet sometimes, though I could invite a friend, going somewhere alone just feels easier. Better, even.

Maybe a movie I can’t think of anyone else who would enjoy. Or an author reading and interview, which only a select group would find of interest, no matter the writer. Lectures—same issue. And events that a broad swath of people might like, but around which I’d rather not deal with the effort involved in extending invitations. Sometimes, determining who to ask, inviting them, and coordinating logistics means hassle—and quite often, I just want to relax.

Another reason?

Beyond hassle, sometimes I don’t want to worry that the person I’ve invited won’t enjoy the activity—and, as the organizer, I have responsibility for her good time. I feel the need to explain the reason I wanted to attend the function, why I like the activity, and talk her through what she sees or what she should expect.

And sometimes, I don’t want to worry about anyone else’s happiness or enjoyment—I just want to focus on my own.

Selfish? Maybe.

But I bet others feel the same way.

What types of activities do you prefer to attend solo?