I have friend pockets.
Some people I know individually, alone and independent of knowing anyone else connected to either of us. We have no mutual friends. Some people I know as part of discrete groups, unconnected to other groups that include other friends.
If I had a huge party—not that I’d do so, typically—most people at the soiree wouldn’t know anyone else in attendance.
Although I stand by my earlier statement that nurturing friendships requires time spent one on one, I wish I had more interconnected friends. If I like someone and they like me—which I figure predicates friendship of any depth—most likely they’d like someone else I like and who also likes me.
Further, some activities, such as trips, game nights, cultural events, and concerts, feel more fun with a decently sized group. To shake together a decent gathering, you need to invite a large number of potential attendees who you believe would get along, and these invitees will more likely attend if they’ll know other people there.
The question: How?
Yet as throwing a huge shindig likely won’t suddenly appeal to my introvert sensibilities, perhaps I should reinstate regular dinner parties. I haven’t done them in a while. At dinner parties, I always tried to invite friends who didn’t know each other—but should have. A small-group, informal setting seemed perfect for encouraging connections and felt manageable to me as emcee.
How do you connect your friends?